Parent-Teacher Cooperation

Navigating School Avoidance: Your Parent-Teacher Action Plan

Early intervention is key to successfully integrating your child back into school. But misconceptions around school avoidance can delay the process. Follow this advice for the best outcomes.

By Jayne Demsky, Updated on May 7, 2025
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 Any family that has navigated school avoidance will tell you that it’s terribly stressful and that outcomes are improved when educators and parents work collaboratively. This is unequivocally true, and rare, in part because misconceptions and ignorance around school avoidance affect educators’ responses.

Advice for Parent-Teacher Collaboration

Up to a third of children with ADHD will experience school avoidance at some point during their academic journey. A student’s school avoidance, also referred to as school refusal, can last weeks or months during an academic year. In severe cases, it can last longer. Follow this advice to facilitate collaboration and get your child back to school.

#1. Request Help Early

Call the school at the first signs of possible school avoidance. Time is of the essence. Research and real-life experiences show that earlier interventions improve outcomes.

Schools have staff dedicated to helping students with mental health challenges, learning disabilities, and family issues. Your goal is to meet with these staff members and discuss where your child is struggling and what’s going on at home. Let them know that you consider this to be serious and that early interventions are extremely important. Work with the school intervention team on strategies to help your child.

#2. Get Educated About School Avoidance

Because school avoidance is misunderstood, your school may not know the best practices and evidence-based strategies for addressing it. As a caregiver, you will need to advocate for your child and educate the school staff. Arrive at school meetings equipped with information and specific requests for help.

[Read: “Help! My Child Won’t Go to School.”]

#3. Know Your Rights

Federal and state laws require public schools to provide a free, appropriate, public education to all students. Your understanding of these laws is important because schools sometimes have difficulty interpreting and applying them to school avoidance.

#4. Establish Accommodations

Most kids who avoid school qualify for a 504 Plan or an Individualized Education Program (IEP), and benefit from accommodations and services that can reintegrate them into school. Some schools will modify workloads, homework, and attendance requirements to help your child return to school.

#5. Develop a Reintegration Plan

Collaborate on a plan to get your child back into the classroom. Your child’s therapist should be communicating with the school about how to best do this.

#6. Know When to Activate Plan B

If you feel the current school environment cannot support your child appropriately or blatantly disregards their needs, seek alternative school options. Your child deserves a caring and supportive school where they feel safe and valued.

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Avoid These Missteps

Common mistakes parents make while working with their child’s school include:

  • Working too long with your intervention team without a defined plan for getting your child back to school
  • Not requesting a 504 Plan or IEP in writing. Once you ask for an evaluation for a 504 Plan or IEP in a letter or email (get proof of receipt), the clock starts to ensure that timelines are followed according to the law
  • Crafting a 504 Plan or IEP that says nothing about the steps, changes, or strategies to help your child return to school

School Avoidance Interventions: Next Steps

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